Main Passage ///
Ephesians 5:1-6:9
5 1 "Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. 4 Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient.7 Therefore do not be partners with them.
8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10 and find out what pleases the Lord. 11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. 13 But everything exposed by the light becomes visible—and everything that is illuminated becomes a light.14 This is why it is said:
“Wake up, sleeper,
rise from the dead,
and Christ will shine on you.”
15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. 18 Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, 20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body.31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
5 Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. 6 Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. 7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people, 8 because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free.
9 And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with him."
Lesson Objectives ///
WHAT: With the new identity that we have received from Christ comes great responsibility within our relationships.
WHY: We can benefit from examining the way that they walk because a mark of a follower of Christ is a walk of wisdom and truth.
Main Points ///
+GOD IS YOUR EXAMPLE.
+In verse 1, Paul says that Christians ought to be imitators of God - yet we don't see God in physical form, we don't engage in audible conversations with God, and we even sometimes wonder if God is there with us. How do we imitate Christ?
+What role does understanding your identity in Christ have in your imitation of God? Can you truly imitate God without understanding your identity as a Christ follower? Why or why not?
+What do you think it means to be a sacrifice to God, as Paul mentions in verse 2?
+What Paul is making clear to Christians is that because of Christ's unselfish sacrifice on the cross, we have now been reconciled to God. As a result, we are to willingly give up ourselves and all our pursuits and be imitators of Christ.
+REFLECT GOD'S LIGHT.
+Read Ephesians 5:3-21. Paul is telling us about the differences between those that walk in darkness and those that are walking in the light. What is your reaction to the things he writes in these verses?
+What does walking as children of light look like, practically, on a daily basis?
+Why is it necessary to put off sexual immorality and all impurity? What do those things symbolize in your life if they exist? How do those reflect your new identity?
+In verse 15, Paul contrasts walking wisely with walking unwisely. How would you differentiate between these ways of living? Give a couple of examples.
+In verse 17, Paul emphasizes the importance of understanding God's will. How much do you struggle with the idea of finding and following God's will - or is it a struggle at all?
+Our identity is found in Christ and therefore we are to live differently from the world. If our lives represent the former self, then we have not fully given our lives to follow Christ. Paul says that if our lives are marked with sexual immorality, foolish talk or joking, impurity, idolatry, or living in darkness, then we are not able to take part in the inheritance found in Christ. Paul offers a rally cry for us today in verse 11: Take no part in unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.
+CONSIDER PRINCIPLES OF YOUR NEW IDENTITY.
+Read Ephesians 5:23-33. How do the words of this passage about different familial relationships help you better understand the message of what it means to be a follower of Christ?
+What does submission mean? How does a wife's submission show the relationship between the church and Christ? Why is this submission so significant?
+What issues do you have with the concept of submission?
+If men understood - both dating relationship as well as in marriage - how much Christ actually loved the church, how would it change they way they view women and relationships?
+What kind of love does it take for Christians to love spouses like Christ loved the church?
+This passage shows us a window into the heart of God about relationships. The relationship between a husband and a wife is a description of the relationship between Christ and the church, We need to love unconditionally and be willing to give up ourselves completely to one another for the sake of the gospel. Marriage relationships should show a dying world just how much Christ loved his body {the church}. Similarly, the relationships between parents and children and between bosses and workers are all opportunities to display a Christ-like attitude in our world. God's light can shine in and through these important relationships.
Secondary Passages ///
1 Thessalonians 4:3-12
"3 For this is God's will, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality, 4 so that each of you knows how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not with lustful desires, like the Gentiles who don't know God. 6 This means one must not transgress against and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger of all these offenses, as we also previously told and warned you. 7 For God has not called us to impurity, but to sanctification. 8 Therefore, the person who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who also gives you His Holy Spirit.
9 About brotherly love: you don't need me to write you because you yourselves are taught by God to love one another. 10 In fact, you are doing this toward all the brothers in the entire region of Macedonia. But we encourage you, brothers, to do so even more, 11 to seek to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you, 12 so that you may walk properly in the presence of outsiders and not be dependent on anyone."
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1 John 1:5-10
"5 Now this is the message we have heard from Him and declare to you: God is light, and there is absolutely no darkness in Him. 6 If we say, "We have fellowship with Him," and walk in darkness, we are lying and are not practicing the truth. 7 But if we walk in the light as He Himself is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. 8 If we say, "We have no sin," we are deceiving ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say, "We have not sinned," we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us."
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Closing Thoughts ///
Through Christ's love, he was willing to give himself up on a cross for us to live. Jesus truly put us first. Are you willing to give up everything for the sake of following Christ and putting the benefit of others first? Why or why not? What parts of your life do you struggle most with giving up? Why?
We have Christ as the perfect example. When we draw near to Him and desire to follow Him, He transforms us from the inside out, rather the outside in. Ask God to change you from the inside out, and He absolutely will.